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Be selective when choosing a roommate(s). The people that you choose will have either a negative or a positive effect on your academic experience. Do not choose people just because it is convenient to you. COMMUNICATION IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT! You might want to consider creating and signing a written roommate agreement containing all the ground rules you agree upon. This could avoid many disagreements between roommates. We have created a handy guide to help with the process, and present somethings to consider when deciding.
Download a copy of our Guide.
Mediation and Conflict Resolution:
Sometimes problems can occur. Open communication is the best strategy to solve a problem or misunderstanding between roommates. Find out how your roommate(s) want to be approached when concerns arise. Do they want to discuss it privately? Will 'house meetings' with all roommates present be better? not everyone wants to be approched the same way, so this is an important issue.
Problems do arise, some tips to resolve:
- Recognize the conflict asap. Recognizing the problem allows each person to address the issue.
- Give everybody equal time to speak and be aware of everyone's feelings.
- Stick to the issue. Be clear about your concerns.
- Use "I" instead of "You" statements to explain your point of view.
- Respect Each Other! Avoid name calling, exaggeration, and blaming.
- If needed, get someone to remain objective and act as mediator.
- Come up with resolutions together. Be willing to compromise.
- Consider putting your resolutions in writing and everyone signing to indicate their agreement.
- City of Fort Collins has a free mediation service -
www.ci.fort-collins.co.us/neighborhoodservices/mediation.php
- Talk to your landlord! They have seen a few disputes. Communication is important, start early to prevent things from getting bigger.
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